Asking for What You Need or Want
Asking for what you need or want is one of the hardest things to do sometimes. You feel people close to you should know what you need.
That is how I felt. Also, because I was co-dependant I felt I should always do for others and never ask for anything for myself.
Asking Your Friends for Help
It is good to tell others what you want or need. Most of the time they have no idea what to do for you. They may be afraid of hurting you in some way. Maybe they think if they offer you the wrong things it would upset you.
Ideas for Asking
Maybe you don't even know what you need to be asking for yourself. Here are a few suggestions to get the ball rolling.
- A night out with friends or family.
- A ride to a doctors appointment.
- A dinner prepared for you.
- A shoulder to cry on.
- Help cleaning the house.
- A friend to accompany you shopping. If you are a survivor, you could need this to help you feel safe again.
- Help with paying your bills. If you suffer from depression you may need help to organize the household bills.
- A weekend away. If you have children or pets, ask someone to watch them while you have alone time.
- A friend or family member you can call in an emergancy. This is very important. Sometimes you can't think of things to do to help yourself in your time of need and they can help get you grounded again.
- Some quiet time alone at home. If you have children, ask someone to watch them for a few hours to give you time alone. If for nothing more than to rest.
Asking Friends for Favors
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These are just a few suggestions. You can add to the list with ones you think of yourself.
Remember friends or family members-no matter how close they are-cannot read your mind.
It is good and okay to express what you want or need.